Couples impacted by an addictive disorder have a lot to process. However, not getting stuck in the future or in the past does not mean that you do not acknowledge the past, or its consequences.
Jerry and Carol (not their real names) came in for couples therapy. They stated that they had a good marriage, but that they needed a "tune up". Jerry talked about how he felt that stress was impacting their relationship, Carol agreed, but also expressed concern over Jerry's alcohol use and wanted him to better control his drinking, like he used to.