Expressing Thoughts, Feelings, Needs
In healthy relationships partners are able to express their thoughts, feelings, and needs about issues, providing a map for what works with each partner. Couples develop ways to support each other, while at the same time maintain healthy boundaries and good self-care. Respectfully acknowledging each other’s perspectives increases trust, creates a direction for going forward, and integrates and balances personal and relationship needs.
control, enabling, dismissing feelings
Codependency is a term often used to describe behaviors in reaction to a partner’s loss of control with an addictive disorder. Triggered by fear, anger, and anxiety, partners attempt to control and assume responsibility for the negative consequences that follow their partner’s addiction. Of course, it’s an impossible situation and leads to partners feeling guilty, angry, helpless, and hopeless despite the very best intentions and attempts.
Interdependence refers to the mutual responsibility each partner has for expressing and understanding each other's thoughts, feelings, and needs
Evaluations from Roadmap for the Journey: A Workshop for Couples Celebrating Recovery